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Goal Setting Guide: Stop Playing it Safe! Dream Your Life Balance.

Do you have a busy life that fill your day to the brim?

Is your goal setting guide same as your to-do’s? Do you live mostly in your head?

Above all, are you starting to feel done with living your life based on your to-do list?

Here is a step by step guide that you can follow to apply ultimate goal setting to your life. It starts with dreaming your life balance.

Also, do you want a BIG life balance change? This is for you. Take this new opportunity to open up a new chapter.

The time is right.

Read on.

Do you recognize yourself in the below description? 

You want to:

  • feel more alive and present in your life, not just rush around trying to get your to-do list done?
  • feel that there is more room for You, not just the 9-5 work, and work, and more work?
  • less multitasking and business travel on short notice?
  • find soul sisters in your life to feel being just you with?
  •  surround yourself with things that inspire you, not mainstream status symbols?
  • feel clear, calm and connected, not confined, just free AND productive?

It sounds like you are ready to make a change! So, if you are aligning with any of above you are in the right place at the right time right now.

Up until now, have you ignored the signs that it’s time to slow down and make changes, and you are still rushing around… one more week?

The only way to begin a journey of self growth is to start with this goal setting guide which is rooted in feelings.

Do you feel that you are already living in the future, thinking about your goals all the time, always thinking ahead and plan everything out weeks ahead?

This is different. 

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Consider carving out time to truly Dream? I mean really DREAM. Sitting in stillness, with yourself only with no distractions, not even a smart phone. Then, slowly start to tap into those tucked away feelings and get moved by them, feeling it inside your body?

Now we’re talking.

Knowing what your true self desires and what you want to be different in your life is key to goal setting.

Many women feel helpless because they feel that EVERYTHING needs to change having a hard time pinpoint what to change. Does it feel like your feelings are not connected to what you truly want. It’s hard to come up with something?

So, have you been allowing yourself to Dream about what the opportunity REALLY is? To the point that you are feeling it in your body?

Or are you playing but within your perceived limits? 

Being honest with yourself is a great motivator to start because you realize that you feel better about your goals if you are transparent with yourself about what the reality is.

“How would I know if I am playing safe?”  you may ask. Well, if you are dreaming about something that someone else has achieved or something that someone you know already have done? Yes you are playing it safe.

This is about YOU, not what others already have or do. This is unchartered territory in your life and you wouldn’t know the answer, right?

Time to step into your power –  Working Wonder Woman !! Stop playing it safe and DREAM!!

For many years I didn’t have any interests or passion projects outside work. I really didn’t know what I was going to do if I didn’t do work or spend time with my family. It was either or.

Having a young family and working full time including business travel had me totally operating from my head only, not with my heart. I had put my feelings aside.

So when I lost my job I crashed. I was lost. I had created a well oiled machine of a life that was highly effective, and routine, but with no emotion or creativity, just laser focus. 

Laser focused on work and taking care of 3 kids. There was absolutely no room for anything else. 

The thought of even thinking of a different way of relating to my day was so foreign at the time. Now I realize I didn’t allow myself to dream or connect with feelings outside my well oiled machine routine.

My wake up call came years ago when I lost my job and I had to start defining what my new path was going to be.

From one day to another l had to step out of my “Working Wonder Woman Costume” and start dreaming about what’s possible.

And I sat and sat dreaming until I felt my vision and goals in my bones.

You can do it too, without losing a job first. Once you have made the decision to start you have to test yourself on what you are up for. What is it really that you want to change and why? The clarity around What and Why are so important, but it can take some time.

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Then, your feelings will guide you. If a feeling keeps coming back, it’s probably right for you. Notice what you are feeling excited about when you think about it? Take note when this happens.

On the other hand, if you feel nothing and you don’t know where to start, is sometimes common and it may be because you are pushing progress and that is opposite of what works.

This is even more a reason to apply this goal setting step-by-step inner job guide to dream your life  balance.

I want to give a heads up!

This practice is done totally in the present moment leaning into the future.

However, past experiences may pop up to trying to keep you from expanding your vision. So, be aware of this. Try to leave the past behind to get the most out of this step by step guide.

And be sure to write everything down in your journal.

First step is to define your life balance. What does balance and living more in flow with yourself, others and your environment really mean to you?

First of all, it’s key to allow yourself to truly dream without bouncing your dream against the wall of realism right away. It’s so important to expand yourself beyond where you normally do using your curiosity about life and your imagination to get to the heart of what you really want.

Allowing yourself to feel is a good thing, it’s actually a requirement when you do goal setting this way.

Therefore, your feelings can guide you to possibilities that are waiting for your unique talent. Your heart wisdom will guide you to what balance mean to you. No-one else would know what it means to you. Put the brain on hold and dream.

Second step is to ask yourself; “What do I need?” It’s all internally determined. Energy. Vibration. Mood. What do you NEED?

It has been said that all personal development starts with inner work, therefore inner work is how you test drive your vision. Making space to go to the depths of your desire of what a more balanced day would feel like as compared to what you’re currently living. 

Another approach to making your dream real for you is to visualize, write it down, draw pictures, write down emotions and recall those emotions from past heights in your life.

Tip: If you can feel the inner relief when you stay in the energy and feeling about your desired goal, you are on the right track. 

Third step is to ask yourself  “What do I want to create?” These are external, physical, tangible, measurable goals and timelines.

Describe what is the difference from now, how much additional money? or how much more time for yourself, or with your family? How much less travel? Put numbers to it because that will help you see the opportunity.

How would you know you have achieved your vision? This is your tangible dream and you can almost touch it. Write it down, describe it some more. How would you be able to tell?

Write it all down.

Finally, now you have both an emotional and physical connection to your dream of how balance could take expression in your life.

“Immerse yourself in the energy of what you desire.”

-Hiro Boga

So, this is your dream beyond what you have ever thought of possible. You feel the excitement inside because you also can feel the tangible possibility for you. This is getting real!

Finally, ELEVATE this to the next level!

Now, take all of those goals and attributes you have described for your self and now elevate this, amp it up another notch, and above all add another 25% at least.

Stretch your vision, add another edge to this goal setting guide! Add desired numbers or measurable metrics so that it feels unreal and a bit scary… but oh so good.

NOW you are at the edge of your wildest dreams. This is your compass to the destination. See it, feel it, taste it and then put even more details to it as you develop into living your dream.

How about start living this vision today? Your compass is your feelings.

If you feel like you are living your dream when you think about it? You are certainly on the right path towards making it happen and keep going!

Another favorite quote of mine is:

“Whenever you start guiding yourself by caring about how you feel,

you start guiding yourself back to your stream of source energy,

and that’s where your clarity is, 

that’s where your joy is, 

that’s where your flexibility is,

that’s where your balance is, 

that’s where your good ideas come from.

That’s where all the good stuff is accessed from.”

– Abraham Hicks

Also, how can you keep this vision with you on a daily basis? How can you keep it alive? A powerful way to amplify this goal setting guide is to tell someone about your vision because that is how you mean it. Find a way to remind yourself about your dream of living a balanced life because it may result in a life change?

Another previous blog highlights the importance of staying with your dream and how you can create powerful reminders to stay on track long term: Better than Health App: How to Stick with Your Personal Goals Using a Soul Reminder.

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As a result of doing this work and staying in the feeling of what you desire, you can make your dream happen naturally by reminding yourself of your vision and tap into how you want to feel on a daily basis.

By living in the feeling of what you want is enough to remind yourself.

So, I encourage you to get started today!

Schedule a 2 hour slot out of your busy day, clear it out totally, no phones or distractions. Do not disturb!! (If this is he first time you are doing goal setting in this way for yourself ever, certainly hat is off to you!! Congratulations!).

Lastly, find a quiet place, sit down and make your space comfortable. Bring out your favorite journal. Light a candle, sit in a comfy chair, diffuse your fav oil, play soft music. Meditate. Get centered and START.

If you want to explore this goal setting guide in a deeper way with your own personal examples, work with an intuitive life coach.

What does your BIG DREAM feel like?


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